They say sharing is caring, and granted we all want to believe that we live in a world where we can all sit down with our friends and discuss everything about everything in our lives. That being said though, there are some things you should never tell your friends about your relationship. Things that can devalue your relationship and end up destroying it. Relationships last longer when no one knows your business.
It’s okay to tell your friends about your relationship, it’s even okay to tell them when you get into a fight. But never go into the specifics unless you’re asking for an honest opinion. If you happen to make up, and forgive, your friends might still hold a grudge against your lover.
2. Money Problems
It’s okay to talk to your friends about money problems of your own but it’s not okay to bring your significant other’s finances into that conversation. A lot of people are very sensitive about what they perceive as weakness and that’s never a line you want to cross.
If someone cheats on you and you dump them, feel free to tell all of your friends how much of a cheat they are. But, if you’re working it out, never tell your friends that your significant other cheated. You may forgive them because you love them but your friends love you, and they won’t.
4. Bedroom Problems
If you talk about this with your friends, they will never look at your partner the same way again. Your friends don’t need to know if you need to talk your significant other in for little blue pills. That’s something you should keep between you and your partner.
5. Your Partner’s Past Relationships
Your friends are YOUR friends. They don’t need to know that four years ago the person your with had his heart broken by an even woman named Neo. If that’s something they want to share with your friends, let them. But that isn’t exactly your place.
6. Your Partner’s Past
If your significant other had a troubled childhood or had some embarrassing moments in the past, leave it there. It might seem like a great story to tell your friends so they can get to know your partner better, but it’s only going to cause problems when your friends accidentally bring up details from your partner’s past.
7. Constant Complaints
Constantly or even frequently complaining about your relationship can spell trouble. Your friends only hear your side of the story so if you’re always complaining about how your partner isn’t ambitious enough or doesn’t do certain things for you, they’re going to run with that. Eventually, your friends will start viewing your partner in a negative light and encourage you to break up.
8. Unfounded Suspicions
If you have a feeling that your partner is texting someone on the sly. Don’t take this as a sign to plan your stakeout with your friends and come up with a plan of attack. You can turn it into a huge ordeal with your friends only to find out that he’s innocent and while you might be able to move on, your friends will think of him as a cheating partner.
Comparing your current partner to your ex or your friend’s partner will no doubt lead to trouble. Not only are you sharing intimate details about your relationship, comparing can lead to unrealistic expectations which is damaging to a relationship.
Don’t tell your friends the specifics of your s3x life. Don’t tell them about any kinks your boyfriend or girlfriend has because from that point on, your friend will never be able to look them in the eye again.